My firstborn

So, 24 more days until we welcome our second son, Jake, into our home. I'm getting very excited to finally meet this little guy! However, it took me about 7 months to actually get excited...despite the fact that we tried for 10 long months and really want this baby, I felt a little sad about losing my one on one time with Luke, my firstborn son. Sometimes, when I'm playing with Luke and listening to his giggles, I find myself thinking, 'only 24 more days of just the 2 of us'. Ever since I left my job at the end of May to stay at home with him full time, he and I have become even closer! I love our time together and it pulls at my heart to know that I won't be able to give him my 100% attention all the time. Is it really possible to have enough love for two children? Yes, I know it be true, technically, but to experience it myself...well, that is completely different. I've seen my own mother do it THREE times over...it is simply amazing. The following quote perfectly describes my feelings, so I want to document it here...

For Mothers of Two or More...by Unknown

As I walk along holding your 2 1/2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship. Suddenly I feel a kick from within, as if to remind me that our time alone is limited. And I wonder: How could I ever love another child as I love you?

Then she is born, and I watch you. I watch the pain you feel at having to share me as you've never shared me before. I hear you telling me in your own way, "Please love only me." And I hear myself telling you in mine, "I can't," Knowing in fact, that I never can again. You cry. I cry with you. I almost see our new baby as an intruder on the precious relationship we once shared. A relationship we can never quite have again.

But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, and feeling almost guilty. I'm afraid to let you see me enjoying her-- as though I am betraying you. But then I notice your resentment change, first to curiosity, then to protectiveness, finally to genuine affection. More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine. The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast. But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just us two. There are new times -- only now, we are three. I watch the look between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other. I watch how she adores you -- as I have for so long. I see how excited you are by each of her new accomplishments.

And I begin to realize that I haven't taken something from you, I've given something to you. I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you. I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong. And my question is finally answered, to my amazement. Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you -- only differently. And although I realize that you may have to share my time, I now know you'll never share my love. There's enough of that for both of you -- you each have your own supply. I love you -- both. And I thank you both for blessing my life.